Today's topic is
Communication.
I need a haircut. Right? It
looks like I'm wearing a helmet. Did your parents read you stories
when you were young to put you asleep? Did you have that experience?
If you did, was that important to you? What if the opposite happens?
(Pointing toward a brother) Hey man, do what you got to do. Make the best
with you got; do what's right.
And I'm known for making short statements
(Laughing) but some times when you're a little kid, when your daddy or your
mommy reads you a story, that's important to you. Why? That is nurturing;
that's the way we grow in body mind and spirit.
What you are saying might not mean
anything, might not be significant, but just the action in itself, that adds
the value that can guide you into the direction that ultimately any parent
would want the child to go.
You know, you kind of have to look at
communication in a spherical way. What I mean is that you have a forward and
backwards; you have to have some kind of historical background and tradition
and think about putting emphasis on that, and future thinking, outward
thinking, and balancing the left and right, whatever. On a reality level,
for lack of a better term, liberalism and conservatism; and up and down, God
and selfishness.
You have to build from there, and
hopefully, as you try, the sphere gets bigger, as you blow more air into the
balloon, so to speak. Love is elastic so it's like the balloon that doesn't
pop. Although it has boundaries, it will expand and it shouldn't pop. It
won't pop, theoretically.
The most difficult thing for me is being
humble. I jokingly always say "A humble man is nobody other than a person
who knows how to keep his arrogance to himself." It's very difficult.
The things that make vertical work are
things that are basic: humility, self-sacrifice, unselfishness, love,
forgiveness, compassion, all those goody-goody-two-shoes stuff. But those
things are very difficult to achieve unless you can control the forwards and
backwards, left and right and balance.
You know there's a fine line in
everything. Right? In extremes. What about righteousness? The opposite is
self-righteousness. What is the fine line that divides it? When you destroy.
Destroy is a very strong word; I'm going to use it anyway. The union of the
blood, that's self righteousness.
Loyalty is important too. Sometimes, even
if you can't deal with yourself in the moment, at least you have the sense
to walk away, right? I'm a good fighter, and I see some jackass, and he's
provoking a fight. I can kick his butt, or I can walk away. Now that's
difficult. Walking away is difficult. Humility is difficult.
I know that I can be very arrogant. I know
that I can be very self-serving. If you do that long enough, you get greedy.
I've seen that happen many times. But that's reality. That's what we face
everyday.
You see people; good people go down
because of that kind of stuff. Because they allow themselves to let
something, something get the best of them. And what is that something?
That's what we need to communicate about to each other.
You can't live alone. Right? No matter how
smart you are. God doesn't want to be alone. Right? So let's just end it
there. You don't want to be alone. So you need to communicate. That's
why we form a group; that's why family is important. That's the building
block of a greater society. Right? Tribe, society, nation, world, right?
So if we want to establish an ideal
kingdom of God on earth, basic sense has to be met. And you have to know
what the hell, what the basic is and communicate, give and take. Look, love
and forgiveness, that's the opposite isn't it? That's give and take isn't
it?
Why? Because when you forgive somebody,
you will receive greater love. You will take greater love. Take sounds
strong, but basically that's what it is. That's why we forgive; because we
will take greater love because we will receive it from something greater
than ourselves, or even from each other, even from peers, even from your
friends.
Just because you know how to do that they
might think of you a little more differently, even in a group they'll think
that you're a little more special than every body that he knows. Now that's
something, isn't it? That's called growth, and that's what matters. Nothing
else matters more than that.
Ultimately you want to communicate with
God. How many people talk to God regularly? Please don't raise your hand
(Laughter) because I'm going to chop it off. (Much laughter)
At least, be in control of yourself. And
give the best you got to the ones that you love, the ones that you care
about. Start from there. Think about the future; think about the past; think
about the left and right; think about God and your selfishness, and give. If
you've got something to say, say it. Share it. And make that little
ball grow; and make sure it's true.
(From this point until the end Hyo Jin Nim
is in tears.)
Let God judge, OK? Let Him do the judging.
You don't want to get in to that mess. Do what's right. Do the best
you can. Do that first, and don't even think about anything else. Let
God do the judging. You will die!
So, speak the truth from your…
Because when you do that, you'll die for it. Because the heart lives
on. Right? Spirit lives on. You die. Your arrogant ass will die.
And let's all be judged by God. OK?
It's all equal there. You can forgive
somebody, but still there's a judgment for that person. You know what I'm
saying? So I did my best; I tried to learn what is right. So,
I'm all yours. Do what you want. Isn't that what it is? Isn't that the
Christian belief? Isn't that the essence of religion? YOU FEAR
GOD! RIGHT? But no man. Right?
OK, I'll see you next week.
