How are you doing?
Today I am going to talk about something interesting.
Can True Love be addictive?
Can we make true love addictive?
Hey Richie! How are you doing? Long time
no see. (To Richard Wolfe a former member of Hyo-Jin-nim's band.)
Is there good and bad addition? Does every
human behavior result in a consequential action? Yes is does.
So what is the result of addiction?
As a concerned parent you worry about your
children going out of control. The Children's argument is "How can I know my
limitations if I don't test them?"
Even 80 year old parents worry about their
60 year old son. They say "Look both ways when you cross the street and like
that."
How do you deal with addiction? Addiction
is some kind of action that gives you pleasure, no matter how stupid or how
bad. Different people are addicted to different things. Addition is part of
life because we want to feel Joy, Pleasure.
So we question is it good or bad. People's
pleasure is different.
In the South or Mid-West people like
hunting. I used to like hunting, but I stopped because I didn't want to kill
anymore. But what a great feeling killing your 1st deer together with your
son.
What is True Love? It's when you can even
love the Devil. True Love is God's Law, God's concept, God's will. How can
you practice a concept?
You need a concept, but ultimately True
Love too, must bring pleasure. So God is True Love. How do we make that
concept work in our life?
How does one allow ones self to become
addicted to something? You start with the need to feel something. Your goal
is your expectation. You give your self a routine that matches the goal of
your expectation.
You manifest some behavior which you try
to make a habit. You try to become addicted to true love. When you become
habituated to true love you want every action in your life to give you
gratification and pleasure of true love.
There is something in between (ritual)
which I will explain later.
Every kind of action can have an
addiction. Power makes people crazy. Money does too. I've see so many people
get just a little bit of power and they become crazy.
What is right and wrong? Before you talk
about right and wrong you have to know your own addiction. You have to
understand your limitation and WHY you feel joy with certain stuff.
It's easy to feel joy when you want to
kill your enemy. Every pore in your body smells your enemy's blood. I beat
up lots of kids when I was young. It's true it gave momentary pleasure. Kids
do sports, academics, or art to prove them selves and get pleasure.
Just because you feel what you want to
feel, is everything allowed? In love there is law. In true love there is
true law.
Can you feel joy in doing a difficult
task? It's very easy to judge, but everyone has their limitations.
If you give someone love they try to
consume you. This phenomenon occurs 100% of the time. Maybe jealously or
envy are involved.
Why do people become criminal? So where
does it end? What is right and wrong? Certain things have certain
consequences. Is there honor?
I'm trying to get back into the groove of
things. It's not easy after 10 years. What you see is what you get.
(From this point till the conclusion
of his speech Hyo-Jin-nim is in tears, but not sobbing)
I've had my problems. It's my fault. If it
has affected you I'm sorry. I understand what I did was wrong.
I know my son is listening and I want to
make a difference. If I can stay away 10 years, I can stay away forever, but
I'm doing this for my reasons. I'm doing this because I feel I need to do
this.
What is important in making addiction work
for true love is you need some ritual, or symbol between expectation and
habituation. Make it meaningful! Make it work!
Ultimately if you can make your habit
acquire action, make your routine into a ritual. Make it something valuable
and meaningful. Then one step at a time you can understand love. If you give
someone power than they change overnight; that's crazy.
You need to be surrounded by a good
community to bounce stuff off of. You have to know your limit and take your
time.
It took five years to settle the Nan-Sook
Stuff and in 2001 I began to write 10,000 songs.
Two 2nd generation asked me "Make me a
star!" How can I invest what little I have for that? Ultimately to be a star
you have to prove yourself to the world. The two 2nd generation tried and
just gave up.
You have to know your limitations. It's
very difficult, but I'm Father's 1st son. I cannot do things just to make
money. I get a lot of flack because of what I spent.
I know what's important in the 21st
century. Ecumenism, that's every thing in the end.
Do that stuff, that little stuff in your
own way, and if you shine, that's great.
See you next week.
