Good
morning.
We’re in the process of
debugging myself, so just bear with me today.
Today, I want to share
with you about family.
How many people come
from a large family? (audience response) More than 10? (laughter)
I have an older sister,
older brother and, .many younger brothers and sisters and when you look at
my family situation there’s always an issue, all the like time resonating.
Somebody always has a little more than the other guy.
In tradition in general,
even in the western culture too, there are many countries in the western
society that still hold on to certain kind of tradition, historical
tradition. Let’s say having a monarchy, I need to have certain very strong
as to that line of way of thinking, in terms of government and politics and
social structure. So there’s a basic structure that we pretty much accept.
The reason I didn’t talk about it or mention our society already, is because
it’s pretty much given. In China, Japan, Korea there’s certain tradition
that’s just untouchable and it’s permanent and it always will be permanent.
So there are certain
things that we always expect out of it and basically what it comes to even
personally speaking my family situation, well there’s the horoscope way or
even when I was growing up that he gets it more than me and I want to be
equal, I want more fairness. (laughter)
Of course all my little
brothers and sisters, they like that too, they want that stuff more than
anything because, I guess, someone, some unfortunate sole like me is the
primary cause of all that ruckus.
So when you think about
that situation, I don’t know, is that a blessing? Depends on how you look
at it I guess. What if you got nothing? I don’t think that’s a blessing.
What if you have everything is that a blessing? I don’t think so either.
It could be a primary source of greater conflict and ruckus to come. So you
can’t really just accept certain things just because it’s there, Because
there’s a story behind the story, right? Always, because we’re human. In a
human society even down to the microcosm level or single family, you know
family, that stuff is real. There’s a story behind a story. Why? Because
they’re individuals who make up a greater something and it moves up. So as
it moves up obviously the story gets larger and more complicated because
there is a story behind a story behind a story…bla, bla, I don’t know.
So that’s the basic kind
of complex reality that you have to kind of sort through if you want to do
something like make changes in society. So you have to try to understand,
so basically even when we talk Principle, we talk about Principle in a very
simple way. We know you must first understand when you go through the
rigors of basic workshop up to advanced work shop, we try to understand the
reality of subject and object relationship.
Starting with that let’s
just start with that. What is the point of going through the rigors of
being educated about that relation of subject and object, which is
fundamental in Divine Principle. And just trying to remind us how to think
and how to approach how to analyze how to understand not just myself but
that guy, the subject, and that is the basic. That is the basis of trying
to, you know, kind of pound you with the basics. And that is the essence of
what we have to walk away with after hearing all those things over and over
and over again. Not just knowing myself, but what about that guy?
That is the basic, the
premise in which why we go through the rigors of going through those
workshops and being drilled with things over and over and over, because it’s
difficult. Why, because it’s ongoing. You have too many times the greater
difficulty and practical reality is that things happen you have to
understand and learn at the same time, in real time. And it’s changing
constantly. It’s not always just linear and stagnant, it’s constantly flux
and many times the peaks are higher, many times the values are lower, it’s
not always consistent and even if it’s always on the course of a ripple. It
is very, very organic. That’s the problem that we face. So based on
certain kind of even simple measurement or standard of measurement we have
difficulty because sometimes it peaks above it sometimes it dives under it.
So how do you measure
yourself, when things like that happen? In those circumstances what is my
duty, I guess, what is my, you know, responsibility to somehow secure myself
to give me some kind of stability. Because in the end you’re in control of
yourself in terms of stability, right? Because you’re in control of your
actions in the end!! Right or wrong, you have to face up to your
consequences if you want to be responsible. If you want to deny
responsibility, yeah you can do whatever the hell you want. But if you want
to be responsible you have to make that responsibility and creating that
stability for yourself, so how do you go about doing that?
Well let me just start
from myself, you know. I have a older sister, I know she wants to be me
(laughter). And have a lot of younger brothers and sisters who wants to be
me to. Some have it more than others and that’s fine with me. But I think
about, so how do I fit in with even just the basic family situation that we
all have as person who’s standing in front of you who has a position whether
I liked it or not, it’s not voluntary stuff. It was just shoved (laughter),
given to (audience laughter) I had no choice. I lent myself for that , no,
you know what, it doesn’t come like that just, hey do that, okay? You’re
just stuck with it forever. Alright, so what can I do with this stuff.
So in this kind of
horizontal…, the funny thing is, the girls, they, you know, my little sister
they’re constantly complaining, “I want to be treated like the boys, I want
equal treatment, I wanna so everything like a man, How come all these boys
get all this preference treatment” Bla, bla, bla…on and on. And I, you
know, okay, okay, okay no problem I can handle it. But some of the other
boys might not agree (laughter). So pretty much the girls want what the
boys have and whether it’s younger or older. But the boys want what the
older brother has. (laughter)
And in our unique
situation because we have Cain and Abel type families and children centering
on Father, you know, Cain family they want what Abel family have
(laughter). But it’s all this kind of chasing around, stuff, and what are
you chasing basically in the end? That’s about it. That’s the cause of the
problem, a bunch of them, pretty much general conflict 99.99 percent of the
time that’s about it. It’s very rare to fight over something else. And
that’s it! And it starts from your family, whether you like it or not.
I’m not special. We’re
not special in this case, you understand me? Everybody has this problem.
It’s pretty much universal and that’s the sad part. Right? That’s the
problem that needs to be resolved. So how do you go about that? What would
be the ideal…kind of I guess position, of an ideal elder son? Let’s just
say the boys are over here and the girls are over here, if I’m stuck in the
middle, because I pretty much have to stand in the middle, and to allow them
to come in and have access to above, to the vertical. That would be the
ideal, elder brother. Not always hogging it, but multiply, selflessly, if
you can do that, always, then you can pretty much create peace, all the
time.
Wouldn’t you say
theoretically speaking. It seems so simple, but it’s so hard to do. Why?
Many times, you know, we have different things that we like. I guess
because of character differences, or personality differences we like certain
things more than others in certain things and many times it’s difficult to
accommodate all that difference. The problem is because of that. Because
of everybody, based on a situation, of course it’s constantly, hopefully,
moving forward, expanding, growing larger and stronger. But sometimes that
growth, you know, is not fast enough to cover the demand. And you seem
powerless or you seem, I guess, you know, not caring to the people that are
demanding. That’s about it.
If only those who are
demanding something, at times, just be a little patient you can recover from
that kind of potential crisis. But sometimes stuff gets the best of the
situation. What’s the stuff? What do you think? You fill in the blank.
And why do you need to have it so quickly? What are you going to do with
all this stuff when you have it? If you have everything that you want, what
are you going to do with it? I see what you do with it, that’s about it, I
don’t think that’s a good thing, man, that’s going to come and bite you on
the behind, any time soon (laughter).
And I’m worried about
that stuff. And it’s not because of, I don’t know how to do that, and kind
of try to avoid it. You’ve got to know your limitation you’ve got to know
your circumstances. And some things it’s not going to work so well, I
guarantee you. That’s why you don’t do it. That’s why you avoid it. It’s
not, you walk around shit not because you’re afraid of it it’s because you
don’t want to step on it. I mean, you can get pissed off and you can do
that. But you avoid it because, obviously. And that’s about it.
And some times we just
get too hurried and we want too many things all the time, too quickly. Just
walk away, sometimes. Just step back. I don’t really need it now.
If you give yourself
that kind of time and try to think about more positive things rather than
very selfish things, maybe all those things, all that stuff that you want,
might not be that important when you mature. Give yourself the proper time
to grow.
I know the world is in a
hurry. And what does it do ya, and you follow that and you become sensitive
and sensible to that kind of stuff, what do you think you’re going to end up
with? You’re just being like them, that’s about it. You’ll be chasing the
same thing that everybody’s chasing. And the way they chase it and the
strategy they use to chase those stuff. It’s nasty stuff, it’s not
something that you want to be proud of, to be holding your heart to be proud
of, forever stuff, I don’t think so. The glory might be temporary but if
that’s what you chase, I can’t stop you. So that’s about it.
So how do you start with
creating and ideal world? You start with yourself and your basic
understanding of even your basic family that you grew up with. Even the
family that you have if you have unresolved issues, try to make it up, try
to do something about it. Start from there. Don’t look at, don’t look too
far start from you. You, all of you have to have that cleared out and
proper. That’s the only way we can start to influence society, alright?
So if you want to go
about it properly, let’s just be proper (laughter). Then we can talk about
it. We can make a strategy that is real that can make things happen
otherwise it’s just talk. And who gives a hoot about just talking. There’s
plenty of people who can just talk. But let’s talk about something that can
make a difference in you. So, I think that’s important. That’s the kind of
stuff that needs to be said.
People need to talk like
that. More people talk that way and try to walk it, and I guess we can have
a foundation to start making things different. Because we’ll have an army
who can stand on their own and we can cover each others back. Some fighting
you can’t just do alone. And that doesn’t mean that just because you have
numbers that you’re automatically going to win either. In this stuff
quality and speed matters in competition and you really have to work on
those suckers, if you don’t do that it doesn’t work. So that’s about it.
That’s what I want to share with you.
What’s family? Family’s
about learning about this property stuff…proper order, subject object
relationship. How to live with God?! For crying out loud. If you can’t
live with each other in brotherhood just because you have this elder son
stuff, how the hell do you live with your parents? How the hell do you live
with God?
Brotherhood is this
horizontal stuff, this is where we work out that ultimate quest of living
with God stuff. Rather than just seeing my little sister as…”Arghh, I’m
better than boy”, well let’s see what good you got. You know, that kind of
simple stuff. You do more of it and all that stuff goes away. It’s not
that difficult if you just practice it.
When you have a good
family it works in a lot of situations because you’ve got this void of, you
know, no communication. Jump starting it, that adds some tremendous
challenge. That becomes the greatest problem and challenge, but it can be
done. And if it’s done, no matter how difficult and daunting it might be,
but if you do it, in the end it can be resolved, no problem. But getting
that stuff ironed out, ironing out those stuff, it’s important at every
level, but one way or another it has to be done. And the more clear we are,
the more focused we are the better the soldiers we’ll be. No doubt about
that. I believe in that stuff.
Anyway, I’m just here
to perform, to give you a pep talk, right?
So that’s pretty much
all I have to say, I guess, not much, huh? As far as this topic is
concerned.
So for you, I said to
myself, I’ll be here every Sunday from now, but I have to go away for a few
days, next week I don’t think I can make it, but the week after, I’ll be
here.
So, take care you guys,
alright?
